Sunday, February 05, 2006

My Newest #1 Hero

Can I just say that I LOVE this show? Every time I watch it I almost cry because I totally relate to her! It’s SOO familiar – I just want to find the right person, get married, have a family. And it’s so elusive! She is totally adorable. She’s so spunky and funny and cute. On the very first episode when she was in the kitchen talking to her mom about how she wants to find someone and settle down and she started to cry. HELLO! They could have scripted that scene by taping 15 minutes of my life and recreating it. And she’s Jewish so she has all of the expectations of her culture making everything seem that much more urgent. At least my mom isn’t like her mom.

So on tonight’s episode she went on a blind date with that guy who is 7 years younger than she is (again, totally familiar), and she totally messed up by talking about her ex and “being controlling,” according to her friends. It just sucks so bad – the whole situation. It’s like, you’re trying to find that one person who is going to totally love you for the person you are and think you’re charming and adorable and loveable, but you’re supposed to play all these games to snag him. It’s so exhausting – you should do this, you shouldn’t do that. Make sure you don’t say this, but let him say that. It’s too much. I’ve just decided to bag all that and if the guy likes me, then at least I know he likes the real me and not some show I put on to be a “good dater.” That’s what she finally concluded toward the end of the episode.

She totally reminded me of Daisy doing America when she went on her second date with the young guy because her sister told her that the guy should ALWAYS pay, so for their date they went shopping for her apartment. After they spent all this time buying crap for her apartment, they got to the check out and she let him pay for it – and it was almost three hundred dollars! It was so funny, she was having this inner struggle of whether to let him pay or not and then she did. She let him pay three hundred dollars for stuff to decorate her apartment. I was waiting for her to pull out plastic wrapped bread like she made it.

Then she went to meet the lady who wrote the book “Dating for Dummies,” and that lady told her that she sends mixed messages by “just wanting to have fun,” with dating, but also “wanting to settle down and get married.” She said those don’t go together and she has to decide which it is. ARGH! This is my exact same problem again! I spend way too much time going out with guys with whom there is not even a glimmer of a hope of a future together. But what is the alternative? Never going out. The alternative is not turning the corner and meeting my husband. If it were, I would have ever-so-much incentive to stop the useless dating. Again, this awfulness of just wanting to find the right person! When you find the right person none of that crap matters because you both just want to be together. All of this strategizing and analyzing and planning and re-planning and deconstructing and reconstructing. It is HORRID. I love this girl SO much for going on TV and showing that I’m not the only one with these feelings. She is my new hero.


NoiXdeCoco said...

It is a pretty good show, what I like most about her is that she's not pathetic or hopeless. She's very positive and level headed. And optimistic, AND PROACTIVE!

I think that was good advice about giving out the signal to meet a man for a serious relationship. Cause maybe the guy she meets is into a long term relationship, but because she puts out "let's have fun" the guy shifts perspectives. I don't think the alternative is to not go out at all.

The thing I keep thinking about while watching this show is, how do I get an apartment that looks like that and is so big! Damn it. I was contemplating how she got the money - rotalties from that one song? I need to get an apartment like that.

I still say - move to NYC, get a new perspective, it's been in the 40s and 50s - fabulous.

Honey Gangsta said...

Yeah, I think a top selling single that is still extremely popular is the way to get an apartment like that. I don't forsee NYC as my future residence - don't think I could handle more than short visits.

NoiXdeCoco said...

Laguna Beach then!!! :)